friends

They say that one has to be very patient and be a very good listener to gain friends.But when u r a very good listener and want to understand and share others feelings some people (friends) take advantage of them. They think that oh she doesnt know anything.. they treat us as if we r totally ignorant about the things they talk,when we r a very good listener. so finally i end up getting and hearing to great big advices.. !! oh my .. advices from here , from there, from whomsoever u meet .. this is getting me on my nerves each time. The speaker thinks they r either they r toooooo smart for everything and anything and that they can keep on talking. So i think one must retaliate. One shd not simply keep nodding their heads to whatever they hear.One shd talk back, that reflex action shd be fast and smart.


I met a friend here,recently. She kept talking too much. Ok i thought it would be the best time pass for now and i had to keep on going with her.What to do they r the first people whom we know here.!!!So she kept talking as if she is the best in her in law family etc etc.But u know she talks all the positive and bright sides of her most of the time. See a good politician!! She would be a great speaker one day!

But later i found that everything she does is in words and we cannot believe or rely on her completely. The way she boasts herself oh my god! I hate boasting..

I do not know where and how i can find good friends but i do have two of them now as i told earlier. So iam satisfied with that.. i hope that will continue longer and forever.

My biggest weakness is i start to expect things from others. I shdnt do it here! I know and i understand but iam not able to put in practice. People vary a lot. There r different types of people around me. And they all act according to the situation.

Human behaviour is very complex to understand in many situations. I think i shd have better mastered in psychology!!

going to school

first we were in a different state in the US . and for the first time i sent my daughter to school over there.. i felt extremely proud and satisfied for her! she has been going to school in india also but that is a different situation there. she was able to manage herself here and when we had to leave that school she came out with good remarks from her teacher and everybody else.. now we have moved to a different state and here also after a few weeks we were able to put her in a new school. now she is going to that ! coming from a totally foreign country and living a life here is absolutely great! and i feel great myself now!!

Need to work

I always feel as if iam wasting my time here in US.We have got plenty of time at home.Ofcourse iam a fulltime homemaker taking care of two kids but still i feel that i still have time to do something productive,useful for my family. I want to work, earn money and help my husband.
But my problem is iam a H4 dependent.My husband has come here on H1.So i think i would have to change my visa to work.But is this needed to sit and work at home also?
I dont know what time it would take for all this?!But i want to do something fruitful asap!!

Iam a Masters degree holder in Family Resource Mngt.I dont know how to and what to look in for .. what type of jobs i can see for.. etc.

I have a friend who also feels as if she is wasting time at home.. she has only one schools going daughter!We both finished Nutrition ,Food Service Mngt., and Dietetics together this is my Bachelor's Degree! Life is extremely boring and depressive sometimes for the both of us!

Got any ideas to share and help??!!

Need to share experiences

My two kids, first a daughter and second a son r just one year apart.My son is going to be two this febraury! He always interferes in his sister's play.He wants whatever his sister has! Be it a girly play item or something else. He doesnt understand the difference in colours and keeps fighting for and crying for everything pink which her sister has.This sometimes frustrates us and my daughter also a lot.Initially i kept telling him ,advicing him and later even scolding him!! He would start to cry and shout ..or behave cranky! to get whatever his sister has.Sometimes we do tell her also to give her play item to her brother, to share it with her brother.. she does it .. mostly it happens as if its always her (my daughter) who keeps giving up to her brother.

I dont know how to handle this situation.We cannot buy everything in two's also!!! It becomes so irritating that i just carry my boy away from my daughter and leave her alone.My daughter is a preschooler now.So many things we bought r for her studies and to increase her knowledge via reading .. My boy wants everything she has,whatever she has .. oh my ! it is really difficult to handle..He also get very angry and aggressive at such situations.

But both of them luv each other,one time they would be fighting and the other minute both will be kissing and hugging!! hmmmm! GOK (God only Knows)

If there is an experienced mom out there (blogger)who can help me with this , i would appreciate it !

thank u.

my daughter

today my daughter was speaking to me while play.she said mom u have to listen to whatever i say and do that.. oh my god see.. nowadays young children r so smart.. she is just three years old..the other day when we were playing give me a 5 with her younger brother she told give me a 4 brother give me a 4.. oh just see how witty she is !! we all enjoyed what she said.one day i told her that i would give her icecream if she finishes her lunch and empties her plate.. so immediately after finishing her plate she asked me to give the icecream without forgetting it..i told her ok dear i will give u and i was busy cleaning my dishes.. so she saw me do that and told u could first give us the icecream and then continue with ur work no... like that .. i said ok ok sorry here u go.. and gave her the icecream.. young kids r very shrewd!!

hi again!!

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hi again!

Both my parents were working.. i have often imagined how my mom works hard to take care of us, the household chores and her job too!! She is definitely one in a million.She has done wonders in our life.She is very very pious too.Both my parents have been with me for both my pregnancies and even after that!!Without my father and mother i couldnt have crossed such situations so easily.Even my husband has a big and important role in this.I would advice all husbands to be accompany their wife during childbirth.Cos then only a man can understand the hardships a woman is undergoing.All these r great milestones in a woman's personal life.And iam proud enough now.cos i have got two great looking lovable kids to share my life with.Since my mom was a working woman she adviced me to be a fulltime homemaker and concentrate on my kids.So i did the same. But every now and then i have a bad feeling about being at home.
Yes i do keep myself busy apart from taking care of my two kids.Iam not idle at any time.. cos an idle mind is a Devil's Paradise.. and i know what all stupid things i can get in my mind when iam idle.. ooooh sometimes that is scary !!
My daughter speaks nicely and my son has just now started to repeat small words..
Life is very much new and is always a learning process when it comes to childbirth and taking care of a child.. that too, two young kids in my case who r only one yr apart from each other.
It will be very satisfying and happy when they cross the first yr.
I have never imagined or dreamed of coming to a foreign country.
But i came becos of my lovable and very good hubby.
He gave me a chance to come to a foreign country,not just for sightseeing but for making a living there too!!.. Here iam learning many new things and one most important thing i learnt after coming here is to be independent always.Here i found people minding their own businesses, not interfering in others life or privacy.. i liked that as soon as i came here. I lacked this particularly in my previous country.Nothing is private there.. whatever u r about to do.. or whatever u have done there r people around u who know those and want to spread those (gossips)to others.I have been frequently questioned and adviced all thru my two pregnancies ..god the one thing i hated.. is the different types of advice from my different types of people.. oops u will get confused.
I had to wait for my life partner for exactly two years. All these two years i have been receiving both positive and negative statements. But i have been dreaming and believing in my own dreams positively that i will get a very good understanding jovial kind of a person in my life . And yo!! I did get him.
Due to the patient search of my father (hey not google search man) i got my kind of man. I got everything i wanted for, in him , thru him, and he was even much more better than i and my family members expected. U shd see the envious and jealousy eyes of all my friends and relations.Two of my friends even burst out by telling me that the bridegroom is very handsome .I kept thinking oh my god "am I" really suitable for this fellow?? ok fine anyway we r continuing our three and a half years of happy married life, ofcourse now with two kids too!!

hi

Today i heard a news regarding Bill Gates.When he was asked that if no indians were allowed to work in his Microsoft Co,what he will do ? He had immdly replied that he would shift his company to India itself. Wow, tears were getting filled in my eyes out of sheer enjoyment and proudness.
I was the only girl in family growing happily between two brothers! see i did not have any competition!!! The things i used to concentrate was in studies and extracurricular activities .. i learnt to dance "Bharatanatiyam" when i was young..but could not continue due to silly reasons.Still i luv to dance , jump around.. i used to lock my door turn on the music system .. and dance to all my favourite songs. That made me more energetic and active. Then i learnt the instrument "Veenai" unfortunately i could not continue that too.. i got married and settled had to travel places,got two kids.. now very busy with them.
I used to luv Michael Jackson's songs selectively.. like "Heal the World",make it a better place. OH my i even used to write those lyrics and byheart them.Sing them ...alone when nobody is listening. My only problem is that i have been hesitating a lot .. to do anything.. to ask for anything..
All thru my life i was in a shell .. that unknown invisible shell surrounded around me and commanded my limitations. I want to teach my young girl not to be like this.. cos this will cause inferiorty complex and this stupid complex will stop u from doing anything productive.I wanted to be initiative,wanted to be the best among the group.. i have put my steps in almost everything that i have been exposed to.. but i could not achieve anything big. All thru my life i have a deep feeling inside about the things iam lacking.. and there r many unanswered questions too arising within me..
I keep fighting with all my friends get angry on even the small things they do .. i was very possessive. i lost many such friends but still have two best friends now.
I have always wondered why women r not able to maintain friendships and other relationships after their marriage.I felt Marriage as a division in life which makes one to forget all their past friends. I lost in touch with many after marriage.One becomes so engulfed in one's own married life that they often forget about many important things in life.

pongal greetings to all

The Pongal festival is celebrated for four days. On, the first day, Bhogi, the old clothes and materials are thrown away and fired, marking the beginning of a new life. The second day, the Pongal day, is celebrated by boiling fresh milk early in the morning and allowing it to boil over the vessel - a tradition that is the literal translation for Pongal (in Tamil). People also prepare savories and sweets, visit each other's homes, and exchange greetings. The third day, Mattu Pongal, is meant to offer thanks to the cows and buffaloes, as they are used to plough the lands. Jallikattu, a violent taming the bull contest, marks this day. On the last day, Kanum Pongal, people go out to picnic. During the Pongal season, people eat sugar canes and decorate the houses with Kolam.Even though Pongal was originally a festival for the farming community, today it is celebrated by all. Coinciding with Makara Sankranti and Lohri of the north, it is also called Pongal Sankranti and thus celebrated in some form in various parts of India.

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